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There's a whole category of people who miss out by not allowing themselves to be weird enough.

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Anyone who isn't embarrassed of who they were last year probably isn't learning enough.

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Just be yourself' is about the worst advice you can give some people.

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There are books that speak to us of our own lives with a clarity we cannot match. They prevent the morose suspicion that we do not fully belong to the...more

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Most victories are, in the best way, acts of revenge.

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Though it may feel otherwise, enjoying life is no more dangerous than apprehending it with continuous anxiety and gloom.

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Learning to give up on perfection may be just about the most romantic move any of us could make.

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The second hugely seductive move is to signal that we view the other person with a mixture of tenderness and realism. It’s often imagined that it’ll b...more

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There is no such thing as work-life balance. Everything worth fighting for unbalances your life.

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Maturity' really means: being very unsurprised by, and calm around, pain and disappointment.

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Pegging your contentment to the overall state of the world rather than of your own life: the basis of morality, or a sort of madness?

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The assumption is that life doesn't need to be navigated with lessons. You can just do it intuitively. After all, you only need to achieve autonomy fr...more

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Never too late to learn some embarrassingly basic, stupidly obvious things about oneself.

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We are properly ready for marriage when we are strong enough to embrace a life of frustration.

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One's doing well if age improves even slightly one's capacity to hold on to that vital truism: "This too shall pass.