"The more we want our children to be (1) lifelong learners, genuinely excited about words and numbers and ideas, (2) avoid sticking with what’s easy an...

How well you do things should be incidental, not integral, to the way you regard yourself.
~ Alfie Kohn ~












How well you do things should be incidental, not integral, to the way you regard yourself.

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