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In retrospect, it seems obvious that my research about parenting was also a means to subdue my anxieties about becoming a parent.... I grew up afraid ...more

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Remember that writing things down makes them real; that it is nearly impossible to hate anyone whose story you know; and, most of all, that even in ou...more

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To look deep into your child's eyes and see in him both yourself and something utterly strange, and then to develop a zealous attachment to every aspe...more

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The passion for such children contains no ego motive of anticipated reciprocity; one is choosing against, in the poet Richard Wilbur's phrase, 'loving...more