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Loneliness chosen is always preferable to loneliness imposed

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The confusion boys experience about their identity is heightened during adolescence. In many ways the fact that today's boy often has a wider range of...more

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When we see love as the will to nurture one's own or another's spiritual growth, revealed through acts of care, respect, knowing, and assuming respons...more

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Commitment to truth telling lays the groundwork for the openness and honesty that is the heartbeat of love. When we see ourselves as we truly are and ...more

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When we are taught that safety lies always with sameness, then difference, of any kind, will appear as a threat

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When anyone thinks a woman who serves "gives 'cause that's what mothers or real women do," they deny her full humanity and thus fail to see the genero...more

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Knowing how to be solitary is central to the art of loving. When we can be alone, we can be with others without using them as a means of escape.

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Usually adult males who are unable to make emotional connections with the women they choose to be intimate with are frozen in time, unable to allow th...more

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Dominator culture teaches all of us that the core of our identity is defined by the will to dominate and control others. We are taught that this will ...more

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Whether they regard themselves as pro- or antifeminist, most women want men to do more of the emotional work in relationships. And most men, even thos...more

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Living simply makes loving simple.

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True love is a different story. When it happens, individuals usually feel in touch with each other's core identity. Embarking on such a relationship i...more

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Again and again a man would tell me about early childhood feelings of emotional exuberance, of unrepressed joy, of feeling connected to life and to ot...more

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Emotional neglect lays the groundwork for the emotional numbing that helps boys feel better about being cut off. Eruptions of rage in boys are most of...more

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No wonder then that men who cared, who were open to change, often just gave up, falling back on the patriarchal masculinity they found so problematic....more