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Usually adult males who are unable to make emotional connections with the women they choose to be intimate with are frozen in time, unable to allow th...more

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Often men who have been emotionally neglected and abused as children by dominating mothers bond with assertive women, only to have their childhood fee...more

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An overwhelming majority of us come from dysfunctional families in which we were taught we were not okay, where we were shamed, verbally and/or physic...more

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When we understand love as the will to nurture our own and another's spiritual growth, it becomes clear that we cannot claim to love if we are hurtful...more

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Few of us enter romantic relationships able to receive love. We fall into romantic attachments doomed to replay familiar family dramas. Usually we do ...more

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In the Mars-and-Venus-gendered universe, men want power and women want emotional attachment and connection. On this planet nobody really has the oppor...more

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Getting in touch with the lovelessness within and letting that lovelessness speak its pain is one way to begin again on love's journey. In relationshi...more

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Love was always and only about good feeling. In early adolescence when we were whipped and told that these punishments were 'for our own good' or 'I'm...more

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All the romantic lore of our culture has told us when we find true love with a partner it will continue. Yet this partnership lasts only if both parti...more

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All too often women believe it is a sign of commitment, an expression of love, to endure unkindness or cruelty, to forgive and forget. In actuality, w...more

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We cannot know love if we remain unable to surrender our attachment to power, if any feeling of vulnerability strikes terror in our hearts. Lovelessne...more

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Most men and women born in the fifties or earlier were socialized to believe that marriages and/or committed romantic bonds of any kind should take pr...more

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The whiteness celebrated in Paris is Burning is not just any old brand of whiteness but rather that brutal imperial ruling-class capitalist patriarcha...more

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If one assumes, as I do, that battery is caused by the belief permeating this culture that hierarchical rule and coercive authority are natural, then ...more