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The inside and the outside of our lives are each the shell where we learn to live.

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People do go back, but they don't survive, because two realities are claiming them at the same time. Such things are too much. You can salt your heart...more

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Wide reading is important. You don’t have to like it, but it’s important to grapple with things you don’t understand. I’ve been spending the last six ...more

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The continuous narrative of existence is a lie. There is no continuous narrative, there are lit-up moments, and the rest is dark.

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They say that every snowflake is different. If that were true, how could the world go on? How could we ever get up off our knees? How could we ever re...more

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The truth is that love smashes into your life like an ice floe, and even if your heart is built like the Titanic you go down.

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Do you wake up as I do, having forgotten what it is that hurts or where, until you move? There is a second of consciousness that is clean again. A sec...more

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Going mad is the beginning of a process. It is not supposed to be the end result.

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Every day in my consultancy, I meet men and women who are out of their minds. That is, they have not the slightest idea who they really are or what it...more

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The human heart is my territory. I write about love because it’s the most important thing in the world. I write about sex because often it feels like ...more

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If the universe is movement, it will not be in one direction only. We think of our lives as linear but it is the spin of the earth that allows us to o...more

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I knew it like destiny, and at the same time, I knew it as choice.

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By betrayal, I mean promising to be on your side, then being on somebody else's.

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There is a certain seductiveness about dead things. You can ill treat, alter and recolour what's dead. It won’t complain.

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Everyone who tells a story tells it differently, just to remind us that everybody sees it differently. Some people say there are true things to be fou...more