"Safe gender is being who and what we want to be when we want to be that, with no threat of censure or violence.Safe gender is going as far in any dire...

When we talk about my gender as though it were a performance, we let the audience - with all their expectations, prejudices, and presumptions - completely off the hook. - Scott Turner Schofield
~ Kate Bornstein ~












When we talk about my gender as though it were a performance, we let the audience - with all their e...
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