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If you are pro love, you have to be a little bit disloyal to the romantic feelings that propel you in the early days.

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One rarely falls in love without being as much attracted to what is interestingly wrong with someone as what is objectively healthy.

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I'm fascinated by Comte's clear-eyed analysis of what was wrong with modern society, which is that you've got industrial capitalism on one side and ro...more

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I'm also interested in the modern suggestion that you can have a combination of love and sex in a marriage - which no previous society has ever believ...more

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He feared that by leaving her he would ruin her life - so he stayed, and did just that.

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Travel is a lot like love.

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It's hard loving those who don't much like themselves: "If you're so great, why would you think I'm so great.

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Once a partner has begun to lose interest, there is apparently little the other can do to arrest the process. Like seduction, withdrawal suffers under...more

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Why be seduced by something as small as a front door in another country? Why fall in love with a place because it has trams and its people seldom have...more

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Everyone endeavours to eliminate through the other individual his own weaknesses, defects, and deviations from the type, lest they be perpetuated or e...more

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we would not reliably assent to reproduce unless we first had lost our minds.

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We believe we are seeking happiness in love, but what we are really after is familiarity. We are looking to re-create, within our adult relationships,...more

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Marriage: a deeply peculiar and ultimately unkind thing to inflict on anyone one claims to care for.

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Few in this world are ever simply nasty; those who hurt us are themselves in pain. The appropriate response is hence never cynicism nor aggression but...more

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To a shameful extent, the charm of marriage boils down to how unpleasant it is to be alone. This isn’t necessarily our fault as individuals. Society a...more