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Fear of the Dark I’ve always been prone to worry and anxiety, but after I became a mother, negotiating joy, gratitude, and scarcity felt like a full-t...more

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Shame hates it when we reach out and tell our story. It hates having words wrapped around it- it can't survive being shared. Shame loves secrecy. When...more

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We cultivate love when we allow our most vulnerable and powerful selves to be deeply seen and known, and when we honor the spiritual connection that g...more

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Perfectionism is a self destructive and addictive belief system that fuels this primary thought: If I look perfect, and do everything perfectly, I can...more

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I hesitate to use a pathologizing label, but underneath the so-called narcissistic personality is definitely shame and the paralyzing fear of being or...more

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Ironically, parenting is a shame and judgment minefield precisely because most of us are wading through uncertainty and self-doubt when it comes to ra...more

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At the exact time that our society embraces shaming, blaming, judgment, and rejection, it also holds acceptance and belonging as immensely important. ...more

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It is easy to see how quickly expectations become layered, competitive and conflicting. This is how the shame web works. We have very few realistic op...more

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You cannot shame or belittle people into changing their behaviors.

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In fact, all of us are very susceptible to having our humiliating experiences turn to shame, especially when the person who is putting us down is some...more

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What separates privilege from entitlement is gratitude.

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If we are going to find our way out of shame and back to each other, vulnerability is the path and courage is the light. To set down those lists of *w...more

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Our stories are not meant for everyone. Hearing them is a privilege, and we should always ask ourselves this before we share: "Who has earned the righ...more

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Caring about the welfare of children and shaming parents are mutually exclusive endeavors.

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[I] never talk about gratitude and joy separately, for this reason. In 12 years, I've never interviewed a single person who would describe their lives...more