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I hesitate to use a pathologizing label, but underneath the so-called narcissistic personality is definitely shame and the paralyzing fear of being or...more

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Ironically, parenting is a shame and judgment minefield precisely because most of us are wading through uncertainty and self-doubt when it comes to ra...more

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At the exact time that our society embraces shaming, blaming, judgment, and rejection, it also holds acceptance and belonging as immensely important. ...more

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It is easy to see how quickly expectations become layered, competitive and conflicting. This is how the shame web works. We have very few realistic op...more

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You cannot shame or belittle people into changing their behaviors.

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In fact, all of us are very susceptible to having our humiliating experiences turn to shame, especially when the person who is putting us down is some...more

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What separates privilege from entitlement is gratitude.

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If we are going to find our way out of shame and back to each other, vulnerability is the path and courage is the light. To set down those lists of *w...more

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Our stories are not meant for everyone. Hearing them is a privilege, and we should always ask ourselves this before we share: "Who has earned the righ...more

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One of the reasons we judge each other so harshly in this world of parenting is because... we perceive anyone else who's doing anything differently th...more

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[I] never talk about gratitude and joy separately, for this reason. In 12 years, I've never interviewed a single person who would describe their lives...more

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Women most often experience shame as a web of layered, conflicting, and competing social-community expectations. The expectations dictate who we shoul...more

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The real questions for parents should be: "Are you engaged? Are you paying attention?" If so, plan to make lots of mistakes and bad decisions. Imperfe...more

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Who we are and how we engage with the world are much stronger predictors of how our children will do than what we know about parenting. In terms of te...more

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I think we can all agree that feeling shame is an incredibly painful experience. What we often don't realize is that perpetrating shame is equally as ...more